The Natural

This is all from personal experience and what I've found so far (6 weeks into the course). So to begin with, a bit of background about my pick-up abilities prior to getting involved with the classes. Essentially I'd been going out 8 months or so (as soon as I hit 18, I was going out, gaming all I could at clubs), as time passed by, motivation decreased as I never saw real success, and thankfully, I was able to find a nice girl to settle with for a short while. 3 months down the track, things fell apart, I really grew a lot from it, but deep down I felt lost and confused, kind of emotionally down and had some sort of anger towards women that really screwed me over when it came to moving on and meeting new girls. 

Getting into pick up was really about building my life, I'd learned so much skills and had a lot of understanding of dynamics in human interactions and although I used it to my advantage in many aspects of my life (especially career-wise), I never really found my pick-up skills improving, creating a sense of self-doubt and from there, everything spiraled down.. A few weeks after my down-like state, I received a phone call, little did I know at the time that it would change everything.

James Marshall, a trainer for The Natura Lifestyles', someone who in my eyes has lived (I mean REALLY LIVED) and has accumulated far greater experience and wisdom than over 95% of the population, was on the other end of the line, presenting me the opportunity to join The 2009 Natural Lifestyles' Masterclass. At the time I was looking for anything to really grab onto, and I'm very glad that I chose to be a part of something that can only be described as life-changing.

After a few intense sessions of classes, the first infield night was underway and this was where we were ready to put what we'd learned into practice with feedback that would prove to be invaluable to the fundamental and lasting change that we would experience. I was pumped and excited for the night, it felt like nothing could stop me or get in my way. I was ready, at least I thought I was..I approached my first set of the night, a group of 3 girls eating at an outdoor cafe, things didn't go to well and I was solidly rejected by them, it seemed that they didn't really appreciate my company as a stranger and so I tried to move on from this..

Frankly, my experience didn't go so well for the first night, I was down from the rejection and didn't do anything else for the rest of the night..internally there was something inside me that resisted and made me really confused and lost without much hope. James, at the end of the night, in his own time, spent a good few hours, going through this with me and I really connected with what he had to say and felt very much at ease after the shocking rejection I'd gone through earlier..I also found out about James' life and how he went from meditating in the mountains of Asia to living the adventures of a rock-star (yes, that means sex.. lots of it! hedonistic lifestyle of the rich and the famous normal guy who grew to become one of the most down-to-earth motherfuckers the world has seen. In our coaching, he also demonstrated game whilst we were out, his game from what I saw was kinda flawless. I don't know how that works but damn was he smooth, I respected him and all before but it was that day that I really became inspired by him. I figure it must have been the mixture of his coaching with his experiences and his demonstration of game that led me to where I am today, right now.

I've grown a lot since that night, I feel more grounded and stable, I've worked through understanding my values and beliefs (which I never realised were conflicting!!) and am now implementing all the lifestyle developments that I've learned. My latest successes have been that I've been able to approach girls I'm interested in meeting and I do so in a way that creates the "romantic" frame, instantly, from the get-go. i.e. direct. I have only just started being direct and I don't think I can go back to any gay-ass openers that get you no where (my experience*) such as "hey guys, who lies more..? (shoot me please lol)" Anyways, it's the most rewarding feeling knowing that I've thrown everything out on the line, my pride, my ego, and best of all, it's Liberating. So far, I've made 8 direct approaches, all with success, girls respond super well to it!? Said in the most sincere and genuine fashion, man it works like a magic pill, it feels like it!! I've never felt at such peace in my life and now picking up is pure, no hidden intentions, no deceptions, it just is. Me, boy. Her, girl. boy meets girl. Love. That's the path I'm on right now..the quest for love. And wow, it doesn't feel like fear or dreading the point that you "have" to talk to her, but rather, you want to and damn do I love game more than ever. 

I really considered, a few times over before I wrote this review, whether I should let others hear about how I've developed, thinking of the consequences such as making my mentors in life (The Natural Lifestyles) seem like they've done some super human acts to help someone become a solid, grounded guy moving into the realm of becoming a romantic and desirable MAN. It wasn't so super human, more like something only the right coach can do to bring you to the next level. Take for example athletes/sports stars, they don't get to the top on their own, they have coaches and mentors that LEAD them there, and at a much faster rate than the athlete going solo. Sure you can read all the books and know all the material, I would know since that's what I did, but the results never showed consistently..but then with 6 coaches at hand, it's like turning the impossible into possibility. Not only that, but the fact that you have a group, a brotherhood of guys, walking similar paths is an experience in and of itself. I've learned a lot from my wings and walking together alongside each other through our endeavors to becoming REAL MEN has been amazingly exciting. 

I realized that I was presenting myself with pure honesty of how much I was held back socially, showing everything, having the courage to share my success from a looser (what I used to believe myself as) to becoming someone who had an idea of change being possible and trying but failing on my own, to succeeding by being guided to taking the right action with the support of this amazing group of dedicated, driven and passionate team. I always had the idea of knowing what I needed to do to change, I knew I had to take the right action, but it wasn't until I was guided and lead by them that I started to take greater leaps forward to success. Even though I am not getting those super awesome daily lays, I am moving in the right direction and at a MUCH FASTER rate than I'd ever imagined myself.

Deep down, my values were conflicting, ever since I was small, I grew up believing sex was bad and only allowed after marriage (Catholicism..), my parents told me that I'd be allowed to have a girlfriend when I finish university and get good grades, get a good job becoming a lawyer or a doctor..They put me in all-guy schools throughout my schooling life until I hit university where I figured that I was petrified with women, my voice would break and my body would shake like I was hit by an earthquake as I tried to talk to girls, but I'd end up looking down and never confronting the problem and just accepting that I would never be good with women until I was rich with my doctorate..my life-saving PHD.. I was the definition of socially awkward..Time went by as I so desperately wanted to change (I had a desire for women, a desire so strong that I'd soon learn to find a way to fulfill it). That's where the community gave me hope. I tried hard, for months upon end, going out, doing those hundreds of approaches, never understanding why I'd have so much fear inside, so much confusion, I was like a little kid lost in the shopping centre looking for mummy and daddy crying my eyes out as I saw all the scary looking things around me, it was uncomfortable and it persisted until I learned about my values. 

All those values that had unconsciously been ingrained in me through growing up, conflicted with what I wanted. With the fundamental understanding, it brought change to my values, lasting change, change that aligned myself. I wrote them up, put them on my wall and have never looked back in the past. I am more assertive, I know what I want and my new beliefs are much stronger than they've ever been in my life, it's like the war inside me has ended and I'm at peace with myself. God is it liberating. It's funny how something so small, so unnoticeable can impact so much and IT is the cause of all your problems at one point in your life and the next, you are able to turn it into a solution that literally changes your life forever. With this change, as I mentioned, my direct approach to meeting women, natural, as pure as natural as you can get, creates that sense of romantic vibe you'd see in movies. I go in with nothing but myself and my intentions, with the unwavering beliefs, knowing that such beauty in life is appreciated and with utmost sincerity, from the heart. Feels like magic, guess what, to me it is like magic, it is truly special and nothing can ever get in the way of those moments I have with the girls I meet. 

I hope my success, however small or big it seems (to me it was MASSIVE) has shown some light to those who have a similar situation, or at least provide some invaluable lessons. I take pride in presenting my story and ultimately would like to show that there is hope, even in extreme circumstances such as what I've been through. 

Life is beautiful, embrace it.

All in all, so far, it's been a thrilling experience and I'm glad that I've actually been through this journey, I know what it's like being hit hard, at a low point and I don't see myself ever ending up there EVER AGAIN, ever. (thanks to The Natural Lifestyles) I guess, as cliche as this may sound, but somewhere from the coaching I received, something actually "clicked" and I don't know how it happened, it's kind of indescribable, I guess only the experience can really bring forth that change. Not some words made up of pixels on a computer screen.. 

The course in essence from my point of view has been about building the life, that let's you live the Natural Lifestyle you desire.

Respect.

If you are anything like me and you have skirted around the community for a while trying in to improve interactions with desirable women and having hit and miss results then I have only 1 piece of advice for you seriously consider the Natural Lifestyles' Masterclass, I for 1 could not recommend anything better.
 

I have watched a lot of videos from Style, Mystery, RSD, Lance mason, and many many others and I have read almost every ebook out there twice, I have practiced but I just wasn’t getting the results I truly wanted. There always seemed to be something missing when reading or watching.

They might work for you in the short term but you have to ask is it you or the material that is doing it?

what I see as the missing link in the videos or ebooks is the fact that its NOT about being a better you its about getting 1 over on some unsuspecting girl/woman. The material is good to get you into the game, but in the long run, if you really truly want better results you have to become a better YOU.

Girls/women will see you for what you are in a very short amount of time and if there is no substance to you underneath the material you'll lose her quicker than you meet her, and where is that really going to leave you? Most likely you'll vanish out of the scene more messed up than when you came in.
 
 

I have come to the half way point in the 12 week Natural Lifestyles' Masterclass, having been in the classroom for 6 weeks and had our first infield night with The Natural Lifestyles' coaches, I got a lot of valuable feedback thru out the night and as soon as I took it on board and used it, my interactions increased 10 fold.

There are no quick fixes, and you really have to fix yourself and you do that by learning to be yourself naturally YOU can be the most interesting MAN a woman has ever met and THAT is exactly what the Natural Lifestyles teach, its about showing you how to be the MAN you where destined to become, but no one ever helped you realise you where/are.

The course itself is not JUST about picking up women, its about becoming a better man all round, it gives you a solid base as a man and then gives you the tools to stretch and grow, it is very interactive and there are some great missions, some of which are easy, some of which are hard or at least push you past comfort zones.
 

There are several coaches both male and female who are there to help you grow, to make sure you don’t fall behind and to get you to a place where you get results consistently. You also have other men who are taking the journey with you so you have a network of men who are your support thru out.
 

As with everything in life the more you put in the more you get out.
 

Having a 12 week program with 2 infield nights a few weeks apart, allows you to go out, reinvent yourself to get feedback and to have the time to fix yourself over time, where you have access to the coaches to help you get where you want to be, to help you sort out your sticking points, to give you perspectives you might not have gotten on a weekend course, you get access to a private forum to help you chart your progress and your fellow journey men.
 

You get inspiration from both the coaches and the other men there on the same journey, you share stories, get ideas, get excellent feed back and get RESULTS.

The crux of the course is that it is about broad self improvement with a focus on angling that self-improvement for improving social interactions/self-confidence/picking up girls.

For me, the course has been quite an eye opener, it's dabbled in some things that have been new to me. 

So far broadly I feel the following topics have been addressed and I will give my personal feedback on each:

Inner Game and body language (taught by Shae and James)

I have found this stuff to be really interesting. Shae is clearly very passionate about it and has a lot to convey. We have run through many exercises with a focus, I feel, on defining what our weaknesses are, what we want to improve then seeing ourselves improve it, and what it would be like in the future once we have reached where we want to go.

Many aspects of what Shae has taught have been invaluable - for instance, breathing. I have actually been using the deep breathing exercises whilst I run and noticed that when I got off the treadmill I didn't feel like I was going to have a heart attack like I usually do!  Also a strange thing that happened to me was after Shae asked us to visualise our perfect self in the future, I had a dream a few nights later where I saw my "perfect" self just standing there against a dark background looking at me - weird!

There was also an awesome exercise taught by James on achieving your centre of balance which I found to be extremely helpful.

The approach and conversational material (taught by Tim and James)

These sessions are really beneficial, and although I had heard some of the material covered before, I really think you can't hear it enough. I won't rehash too much of what was said here, other than this is the practical, useful pickup material that we all know and love in great detail. I feel that as a result of some of the homework exercises my storytelling has improved dramatically, which is a nice tangible benefit. Both Tim and James are great at teaching this, and if I wasn't going on holidays in a week I would have done Tim's 4 week Approach class for sure, because this material is all about practice, practice, practice. The weekly homework exercises really help with this content too.

Fashion and grooming (taught by Jessica)

This information was truly gold. I thought I had some kind of half decent grasp on fashion being decently dressed, however, I'm confident with the stuff taught by Jess I will be hitting the next level now. Being noticeably well dressed is such an easy thing to do, yet I haven't been doing it in the past (dressing well but somewhat generically). This class really encourages me to experiment with some much cooler stuff, and the style guide provided as an accompaniment to the class will be a brilliant reference for the future. For example things I have been encouraged to try by the class, which are diverge from my standard uniform of jeans and shirt will be a mixing and matching jeans/shirt/suit jacket/scarf/leather jacket/better shoes/funky ties.