The more time I spend around beautiful women, the more I sympathise with the challenges they have to face. When I first entered the seduction community my worldview was ‘hot women have the highest sexual selection power, therefore they must have the most fulfilling sexual and romantic lives. They have it the best!’
Of course there are many positive things that go hand in hand with being an attractive woman, I’m not going to bother listing them. But there are a whole host of other negative issues the many men are either unaware of, or dismiss out of bitterness or jealousy. Being able to relate to a beautiful woman’s reality and understand the things they have to put up with gives you a huge advantage on the seduction field purely because many men do NOT understand their reality…having an understanding and empathy for the world of a beautiful women is a big plus.
A recent example: a girl I’ve been seeing moved to the country from Iran a few months ago. She recently got a job at a family run restaurant. The owner and manager has been extra kind to her, giving her lifts home from work, giving her leftover food to take home, and even paying her $100 extra ‘for her studies.’
He kept calling her ‘sister’ and saying that all Iranian brothers and sisters have to stick together. She saw him as a father figure and felt very grateful for his help in a new country, and felt comfortable in his presence, she even called her Mother to reassure her how well she was being looked after, until…
He says to her ‘so I’ve been going to this massage place, and I pay them $50 an hour…you need the money more than them…why don’t you just give me a massage instead?’
So now that throws all the extra attention she’d been getting from into perspective. She tried to play it cool and said ‘Oh no but I don’t know how’ and he kept trying to convince her, soothingly saying ‘come on sister, you need the money for your studies’. She felt very uncomfortable with this and made it clear her answer was no.
The next time she was at work he took her aside and said ‘Hey, sorry about the other day…I didn’t mean anything sexual by it, I don’t want you to think I’m sleazing onto you…’
Now, dear readers, does that sound like something that someone with innocent intentions would say? Of course not. His guilty conscience is driving him to try to take back his obvious attempt at initiating sexual touch between them.
He went on to say ‘I wish I had met you when I was 20…I have just been thinking about you, watching you walk around the restaurant and wishing that I was your age and I could marry you…but I am married now and I love my wife. I’m sorry.’
So the second part of his confession is proof that he WAS sleazing onto her. Making him both a sleaze and deceptive about his intentions.
On top of this, she has a whole host of guys who she’s met since she’s arrived who keep trying to play the ‘friend’ card to get close to her. They don’t show any interest in her romantically. They keep calling her and saying ‘I will help you find a job’ ‘ I will help you with your studies!’.
They think they are this:
When they actually come across like this:
Having someone offer you something with mixed intentions feels very unsettling. Imagine if someone came up to you on the street and said ‘here, want $100? Take it!’ how would you feel? Think about this seriously: they have no obvious motive for wanting to help you. It’s a very awkward position to be put in.
So that’s just the tip of the iceberg, a day in the life of an attractive female. Sure it’s attention, but it’s not the kind of attention she would want. Would you enjoy having to put up with these kind of awkward situations on a regular basis? What about every time you leave the house?
For a hot woman, meeting a man who will just act normally around her, treat her like anyone else, and not try to hide his attraction toward her can be an immensely refreshing and rewarding experience.
I trust you all had an awesome party season filled with enough erotic adventures to fill a smutty memoir:)
Here at TNL we have a huge year planned, plenty of coaching worldwide including speaking at the big international summits for the year. We’ll of course be running the infamous Euro Tours again later in the year and I’ll be releasing my long awaited book on Natural game which I’m polishing off the final edit on right now.
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Hey guys,
Here’s a new infield video we took on the last Euro Tour in Budapest. This set is a good example of using an Assumptive opener that leads the conversation immediately into a dynamic, interesting conversation.
Things to look out for:
The Assumptive Approach
My opener “Have you figured it out yet?” works as a baited intro to an assumptive hook. She is almost certain to ask “what?”, so I then choose to assume she is thinking about the meaning of life. She joins in the roleplay immediately and we are having fun, vibing off each other from the beginning. It’s easy to construct a customized assumption to many approach opportunities. Simply making a guess, (literal or playful) about what she’s like/what she’s thinking and stating it. You can draw her into the interaction with a brief curiosity hook. This gives her a moment to respond to your presence and short circuits her usual reaction of dismisal or suspicion.
Transition
No matter what type of opener you use, you must be able to transition away from initial banter into a more direct introduction. This shows that you are here to stay and are not hiding the fact that you are here because you are interested. It’s very casual but still clear. From there we continue to role play.
Logistical information
I start to sew questions into the conversation, finding out her situation -- that she is travelling alone simply for pleasure. She is open warm and telling me what I want to know. It’s all part of the natural flow and mixes in with discussing her personally and relating but helps me to plan how to pursue things and what time/distance constraints we might have.
Qualifying
While leading to the close I qualify her on her volunteered admission that she is spontaneous. I challenge her answer using the QCQ (Question, Challenge, Qualify) framework. She alludes to a some naughty adventures and the tone becomes more flirtatious. She becomes more invested and leads the conversation as much as I do.
Raising a debt and The Close
I invite her to join me that night. Judging by her situation I know she is travelling alone to explore and have spontaneous adventures. So I waste no time and lead her to meet me quickly.
When I forget her name and she remembers mine I raise a debt on my self (This is a Seductive Economy principle) , whereby I have to do something to redress the arbitrary score. When I ask her what she wants from me, she says “we’ll see” with clear flirtatious intent. I then close the loops of the entire conversation, referring back to our personal role plays and shared banter. She then offers more logistical information and is trying to work out mine, as the sub-communication is that we are considering the night together.
The postscript of this approach was that she came out that night to meet me at a club. I introduced her to Robbie from the tour group and dissapeared to coach the others. They ended up having a wild night as described in his review here.
When a guy is trying to pick up a woman the usual tradition is to “go for the number”. His aim is usually to get the number and then set up the date sometime in the near future. This sometimes provides a lot of stress for the person getting the number and the person giving it out. Questions run through the head such as “should i wait three days, what if they call tomorrow, does that mean they’re desperate, but i really like them, I hope they’re not desperate, but I do want them to call tomorrow because I like them, argh!”
The other problem with numbers is that they can be flakey. By flakey meaning they may not eventuate into anything due to circumstances in between the getting of the number and the call/text to set up the date.
All this can simply be avoided by changing the way you get the number. By going for a date (or event, i personally am not a huge fan of asking for dates) you can skip a lot of the ambiguity and nonsense of how long to wait, where to go, what they like, who’s area to go to etc…
I teach this in my Approach Energy classes as a simple three step process after you’ve developed a bit of rapport with a person.
1. Ask a qualifying question “hey do you know degraves/brunswick st?”
2. Wait for their answer, if no go to 3. If yes go to 4.
3. Say something along the lines of “really? It’s a great place I’m going to have to take you there, put your number in”
4. Say “awesome, we’re goin to have coffee there next week, put your number in” if they ask “why” you say “because I’d like to get to know you a bit better” because that’s the truth, and the truth is one of the best ways to create a genuine connection with somebody.
You can then tell them when you’re going to call/text to confirm the meeting, make a joke or two, or even save yourself in their phone or them in yours with a witty nickname.
In step 1 can change the street name for a cultural event such as an exhibition, a festival, or a nice restaraunt, bar, or even a movie!
I personally recommend everybody have three events each week they’d want to invite a new potential friend/lover to, so that if they suddenly find themself in conversation wanting to see the person again, they can get a date, not a number.
Hey guys,
Tim and I have been trawling through the dozens of hours of footage from our recent world tour. There’s heaps of infield antics that we’ll start posting up over the coming weeks. To start with I’m putting up this clip of an approach I did on the last day of the Euro Tour.
This was an interesting and challenging approach that demonstrates a number of the key principles we teach, so check it out and read the breakdown below to get a clearer understanding of what I was doing. Enjoy!
Things to look out for:
Calling out discomfort - It is clear from the beginning that this girl is uncomfortable in the interaction, which is completely understandable. She is shy, standing waiting for friends and as we find out has never been approached by anyone (let alone someone speaking a foreign language) before. She’s not being a bitch or giving me “shit tests”, this is just unfamiliar and awkward for her.
Her body language and lack of initial investment alerts me to this, so several times I call it out, giving her a window to tell me to leave if she wants. This shows her I understand the way she is feeling and am not sleazy or pushy. It takes me doing this three times before she finally relaxes and engages with me.
Stamina -- It’s fairly uncommon for a woman to properly blow you out (hand in your face screaming “fuck off pervert!”) and it’s actually the man who often ends the interaction prematurely. Just because a woman doesn’t open up immediately, doesn’t mean she is completely uninterested. When strangers meet they often approach each other with caution and awkwardness. If you can accept this as part of the natural process and move through it, then you will find an unresponsive girl can soon open up and give you her number. It takes about 4 minutes of me carrying almost the entire conversation before she starts asking me questions and investing equally. A rule of thumb is to stay in at least one minute longer than you want to and increase that every interaction.
Space, response & timing -- You’ll notice I leave plenty of space in between chatting. Even when she’s not giving more than one word answers. If I had have hammered her with a barrage of questions and stories, she would have locked up even further. Leaving silence encourages her to get involved and also gives me more time and space to read the situation and respond accordingly.
Body language -- You’ll notice I’m fairly still throughout the whole conversation. There are very few unnecessary movements. When I use my hands to express myself they are coordinated with my words. Less and deliberate movement shows confidence and self awareness. It also encourages the woman to become more focussed on the interaction.
Shaping -- Towards the end of this approach I begin to shape her behaviour. I get her to ask me to stay with her, then set the condition that she has to be friendly to me. In this way I have led her to invest more and shown her that I expect her involvement and positive communication or I’m leaving. See how I have flipped the power dynamic from a few minutes earlier when she was uncomfortable and unresponsive.
Closing with a context - As I go for the number, I stop and ask for some more investment from the girl. This is because it is very important to have a reason why I’m getting her number. Now I made a small mistake here as I actually let her off the hook and didn’t press the issue which I should have..Even the gurus make mistakes:) But the principle remains. The best time to get a number is after drawing investment or qualifying. If she reveals something cool/sexy/interesting about herself this is a valid reason for me to want to see her again. Just being a hot girl isn’t enough as that would put me in the same group as every other guy who qualifies a girl on looks alone.
I trust you found this useful. Stay tuned for plenty more infield analysis coming soon.
Check out the gallery link in the menu above or click here to check out photos from our recent adventures. Stay tuned to more updates as the adventure continues!
Below is a review I just got from one of the guys who came on this year’s Euro Tour. Robbie came to us timid and confused and through his hard work and application of principles we taught him, he has exploded into a potential that amazed even us. we had a blast with Robbie and the other guys on tour as he’ll explain in juicy detail. Robbie gives a detailed account of the highs and lows, challenges and triumphs he had on tour and as you can see gets far more out of it than he expected..
I have just had the pleasure of spending 12 days trekking through Eastern Europe with a group of amazing guys and undeniably having the time of my life and experiencing things which I would have never thought were possible.
I had previously done training with The Natural Lifestyles, having completed the Masterclass last year. This course changed my life and without it I don’t know where I would be today. These guys gave me direction in life and really made me question the path I was on and forced me to make some big decisions in life. One of these decisions was to delay the start of my career and go traveling in Europe for a couple of months before deciding what I wanted to do with my professional life. I had known about the euro tour for a while and I was keen on incorporating it into my itinerary as I wanted to build on my experience in the masterclass and put my skills to the test infield in an intense manner. After some doubts and hesitation, I signed up and I can tell you all right now, it was well worth the money and has exceeded any sort of expectations I had.
A bit about the tour before I get into my experiences. Myself and 5 other guys were being coached by James, Tim, Liam and Zanna from TNL in Prague, Hungary (Siofok and Budapest) and Belgrade. We spent about 3-4 hours infield each day and the same at night, rotating between coaches so that we got varying degrees of feedback from each of them. We were pushed heavily into approaching girls wherever we were and we weren’t allowed to make any excuses. The cost of the tour isn’t advertised anywhere as far as i know so I won’t reveal the exact amount but I’ll say it’s closer to five figures than four.
Anyhow, where do I start? I guess I can go through what happened to me in each location and then summarise my experience and progress at the end.
Prague:
Thrown straight into the deep end, we approached hordes of smoking hot women on the street. I ended up chasing girls down the street and stopping them to talk to me, most of them responded favourably and I quickly realised how fun this was and got over any initial nerves. I ended up number closing 3 girls, one of which was an incredibly hot Czech blonde and another was a Ukrainian model whom I met in a shoe store.
That night I messaged all 3 and the Ukrainian was the one who came out to meet me. I invited her to the bar where we were doing our thing and she brought her friend along, I was so nervous that I got James in to wing the friend and keep watch of me. I didn’t expect my first date to be with a smoking hot ukrainian model on the very first day of the tour. I did get a grip just in time and eventually found her kissing ME on the dance floor.
Unfortunately I managed to sabotage myself as I didn’t extract her at this point as I had an alternate plan which needed to be torn up as soon as she kissed me. When the guys I know here see the photos they will want to kick me in the balls for letting this slip, however looking back now I think I was a bit out of my depth at the time. We were only expected to approach girls on day 1 and here I was getting seduced by a Ukrainian model so naturally I panicked a little inside.
The next day was more of the same, this time by the river. I did less approaches but was becoming more efficient. I number closed 3 girls out of 5 approaches, as opposed to 3 out of 20 on the first day. I got a response from all 3 that night, but had to flake on each of them as I met a Polish girl at a bar who I then extracted to the venue from the night before. This time I extracted her back to my apartment, but yet again failed to pull the trigger in time as I was content with just making sure that I got a girl back to my room this time. I was frustrated at myself but I knew the breakthrough was just around the corner and that I made significant progress already.
Siofok:
A great party town situated on Lake Balaton in Hungary, this place turned out to be amazing in more ways than one.
After a long van ride from Prague (where Zanna opened the door of the moving van to light up a cigarette in front of bemused locals), we hit the various little cafes and clubs that littered the main strip. I number closed a cute German with massive cans, grinded a sexy little Austrian girl and extracted 3 other girls to another club with a mate. I was supposed to meet the German back at the main strip but had to wait till the next day as her friends had to leave.
Next day we did more day game by the beach, I ended up sitting down next to a petite little brunette, and an hour later we went tandem bungee jumping together with her friend and one of the other guys on tour. It was probably the worlds first instant double bungee date lol. I have the whole thing on video.
That night we met more girls on the strip who we exchanged details with for later, but found ourselves locked in with a group of 3 Hungarian girls. All of them had boyfriends but two of them, my girl included, were very much interested in a holiday fling. Problem was that my mate took his girl home, and I was left with mine and her friend who had a moral dilemma and put a stop to it all. All these near misses made me snap and I had to clear my head and walk by the lake for a bit, and speak to James in private, who helped me keep my cool and keep things in perspective.
The final day in this town was supposed to be a rest day for us, but none of us rested. I skipped the day component and spent it chasing up all the leads I had gathered in the previous few days. One of them was very keen to meet that night at midnight, so I decided to catch up with her. She spoke very little English so this made it difficult to communicate with her. It ended up blowing out to the point where she literally left me out on the street alone. I responded by walking into a club and going home with one of the most beautiful girls I have ever met..
and whom I will be seeing again when I head back to Budapest in a few weeks. I had finally made the breakthrough and was ready to tear Europe apart.
Budapest: More day gaming by the Danube river, which was littered with hotties. I number closed another smoking hot blonde who walked me back towards where i was supposed to be and went on an instant date with a brunette to the castle.
At night we headed to “Bed Beach”, one of the most amazing clubs I’ve ever been to. We were told to ramp things up and go for the kill. I did around 10 approaches this night which didn’t stick, but I was unphased as I had so many other options to explore. James introduced me to a girl he’d approached earlier in the day and at the end of the night I walked back to her hostel and made out with her in the driveway, she put up loads of resistance but the next night I managed to meet up with her again and take her back to my room for an incredible night..
Day 2 in Budapest and we headed to the outdoor thermal baths, meeting more smoking hot Hungarians, Russians, Ukrainians and other assorted nationalities in the pool. The baths were also a great way to relax after a hectic week. I watched zanna in action setting up dates with two of the hottest women I’ve seen, and began to see how he uses his low energy style to seduce them. I learnt a lot from him on this trip and can definitely see how his lower energy style is just as, if not more effective than a high energy approach to game.
On the final day we had the choice of going shopping to tweak our style or to head to the baths again, I chose the latter and as a result set up meetings that evening with 3 Swedish girls, and the others invited 6 Argentinians also. Unfortunately I had to leave them all that night to meet up with the girl from siofok and spend a night together with her in my very nice apartment. It has been a weird feeling having to turn down women and flake on them, but I don’t mind hehe.
Belgrade: As I have already mentioned, I was absolutely blown away by this city. It is by far the best city I’ve visited so far in terms of concentration of hot women, it is incredible. Walking along the main strip, you see a conveyor belt of stunning women go by, all of them 6 foot tall and walking as though they were doing a fashion show.
We ate dinner at a magnificent restaurant and headed out to the clubs by the riverside. We asked some locals for advice on where to go, and I ended up going home with one of them later on.
Before that, I met a cool group of young serbian girls, who myself, Tim and Liam would spend the next two days with, roaming the streets of Belgrade and smoking Turkish pipes with in a cool little underground bar. Unfortunately the logistics were very difficult with my girl, I came so close to extracting her to my room, but had to settle for a goodbye kiss instead.
The nightlife here was amazing, the clubs would put anything in Melbourne to shame, and I had to settle down for a while and come to terms with the calibre of women present. If you ever venture to Belgrade (and you should), head to a club called Blaywatch, but be warned, you may not recover from your experience.
The unfortunate thing was that by the time I had reached Belgrade, I was severely burnt out. In the 3 days beforehand, I had slept with 3 different girls. I needed a break, I couldn’t keep this sort of intensity up, I had to plead with the coaches to allow me to skip the day sessions. I was too drained physically and mentally as I had pushed myself so hard, and as a result missed an opportunity to meet more beautiful Serbian women. Next time I will spend a lot more time there and really do some damage.
The tour ended with a nice dinner in the trendy medieval area of Belgrade, a group of girls were there also, including a sexy Serbian and her friend: A Hawaiian of Japanese origin who lives in California and can speak serbian. She was in her 30s and approaching 40, had a porsche 911, fake implants and a seductive personality. She eyed me off immediately and bought me at an “auction” that tim organised. Zanna was infatuated with her friend and they were embracing like passionate lovers, so I decided to help him out and occupy the friend, I felt that I owed him for the previous 12 days and wanted to make sure he ended the tour on a high note also, as the coaches were very professional and resisted the urge to let us go so they can meet girls, and instead focussed on us getting the most out of the tour. In the end I had to politely resist her advances as I just wasn’t attracted to her, she would have probably been insane in the bedroom but she just didn’t turn me on really. Zanna got what he wanted so I was happy to leave them and dance my way back to the apartment to the tune of Serbian folk music coming from the cafes nearby.
So in summary:
- 3 lays (doubling my lifetime count in 10 days!)
- 20 numbers
- 50+ approaches
- 5 dates
- fun times had by all
- momentum carried onto rest of my holiday so far
At the start of the tour, I said to James: “I don’t care if I sleep with one girl or ten girls, I want you guys to corrupt me, I’m tired of being cautious and I want to start pulling the trigger”. I certainly managed to achieve this aim, but achieved a lot more and exceeded even my own expectations. I am a changed man, Im finally starting to get how the process works and have a newfound confidence in my interactions with women.
Before the tour, I was getting sporadic results. I had definitely come a long way from 12 months ago, the Masterclass had instilled permanent change in me. I felt more at ease talking to girls, I was finding it a lot easier to have conversations with girls, and started to build my social circle around girls in my life. However, I still had issues in closing the deal with girls and wasn’t projecting my intent well. As such, I wasn’t getting many solid numbers and had no dates lined up. I also went through a period where I had an identity crisis and questioned my reasons for being here and partaking in this action. I quickly put these issues to bed and made sure that I was going to hit it damn hard and not waste a golden opportunity.
Where do I sit now in these areas? Well, for starters, I am confident that I can go and approach a girl, show my intent right away and understand that if she doesn’t respond well, I have saved myself a lot of time and I can walk away without regret and go and approach another girl a few minutes later. I have improved my conversation skills a lot more and I can very quickly build an emotional connection with somebody, and I can do it in a spontaneous manner also. I know how to touch a girl, and when to touch a girl, I know when to lean in, and when to back off and release to build tension even more. I am able to read the situation of the environment whilst in an interaction and work out things like group dynamics and logistics, and form a plan of attack in my mind using this information. I have learned that non verbals are far more important than what you actually say, and have applied this with great success in countries where there can be a significant language barrier. I have increased confidence in the bedroom also as I had several encounters on the trip.
There is no doubt that I have improved, but there is also plenty of room to improve still, I feel as though this is just the beginning of my journey to the next level. I need to carry the momentum throughout the rest of my holiday and most crucially when I return home. I have done well so far in Berlin and London on that front, and also have big plans for when I return home. Stay tuned…
Robbie. 24. Melbourne
Anyone who wants to ask Robbie any questions about the tour, he has set up an account to do so. You can email him at da_eurotour_2010@hotmail.com
Just returned home to Melbourne after 2 months on the road through Europe and the US. Truly epic trip that saw myself, Zanna, Tim and Liam coaching through 7 countries, 14 cities from the battle scarred streets of Belgrade to the glitz of Holywood boulavard. The pace was hectic, round the clock training, seminars, networking and of course finishing up at the PUA Summit in L.A.
Now I’ve got a chance to catch my breathe, I’ll fill you in on some of the highlights of the trip…
Every European summer I take a small crew of guys from around the world on the adventure of a lifetime. The infamous Euro Tour is a day non stop whirlwind, the world’s only travelling seduction workshop. This year over 10 long hot days myself and the TNL coaching crew took 6 guys through Czech Republic, Hungary and Serbia in search of the world’s hottest women. How was it? I’ll let the pictures tell the story…
Hey guys, Liam here. Since first meeting the TNL crew whilst doing The Masterclass a couple of years back, I’ve moved up quickly into my role as infield coach. I’ve been coaching with The Natural Lifestyles for about a year now, as well as coaching the last six Approach Energy courses with Tim.
My philosophy is based on the idea that people are already perfect, they just don’t know it yet. So it’s my job to help them discover that for themselves.
I have a rep for being a ‘social freedom’ guy, who pushes the acceptable norms to the extreme, finding the chinks in the social matrix and bending them to my will. I also specialise in implementing ultra direct, rapid escalation to sleep with girls within 10-20 minutes of meeting them. However, this is a strange paradox, as these traits are very ‘outer game’ focused, and I consider myself primarily an ‘inner game’ coach.
While I see the value in giving students plenty of practical infield experience, I prefer to focus more on the mindsets these actions represent. I show clients how they can go about creating and solidifying those into their identity for permanent change.
When it comes to coaching infield I’m pretty extreme, pushing students above and beyond their comfort zone. They protest, argue and plead with me before hand, but afterwards they are grateful for having their mind expanded (and the 10 second make outs, single night seductions and phones full of numbers seem to put a smile on their faces as well ).
I’m a big believer that any seduction coach should be able to walk what he talks. I pushed myself incredibly hard (with the assistance of the TNL crew) through my journey from chump to ladies man, trying to be as brutally honest with myself as possible. This honest appraisal of my abilities and deficiencies has been the biggest factor in my steep learning curve, meaning that I focused in on my weakness without excuses and found ways to transcend them. My coaching style reflects this. I am very blunt and straight to the point, because I think this is what guys need to hear to really fast track their progress. Don’t worry, I’m fun, sympathetic and reasonable as well but I know how to play bad cop when needed.
This is all geared towards cultivating the kind of self-awareness and ultimately self-acceptance that allows you to move past any mental blocks to reach your true potential.
Your mindsets and beliefs are the biggest factor on your game, they ultimately craft your lifestyle, so my primary coaching focus is improving those aspects of you and helping you integrate them into you permanently.
In future articles I’ll be exploring the various methods I used to accelerate my own and hundreds of clients inner transformation, as well as practical tools for social freedom, rapid escalation and sexual state control techniques that have been the cornerstone of my game.
I’m also very commited to the philosophy and practice of polyamory (i.e having multiple partners in ethical alternative relationships) and for guys interested in multiple relationships that don’t involve deception, I’ll be sharing some of the mindsets and secrets on this as well. Keeping in line with my radical honesty values, I’ll share all the lessons, mistakes and breakthroughs I’ve had that can help you to fast track your success.
Hope you guys enjoy the blog and I look forward to hearing about your own journeys to becoming the man you’ve always wanted to be.
Hi everyone, I’m Jess the first female trainer to join The Natural Lifestyles. I have been working for The Natural since its inception several years ago and now with TNL. My work as a trainer involves working with all elements of seduction including; body language, conversation, touch escalation, (giving on the fly corrections to clients in role-playing scenarios, as well as in the field) and as a stylist and style coach. And yes, as the first female trainer I am the official wing-girl! Through first hand experience alongside its members, I understand the world of the seduction community, and I understand and empathise with the motivations behind it. Instead of being shocked and dismissive like many women, I applaud men who are seeking to improve themselves and their chances with women.
Many women are unaware of why they are attracted to certain types of men (or women) in the first place. So it can be hard for them to communicate to guys what needs to be done to attract them. Then there are women like me, who like all great seducers/seductresses have looked carefully at the courtship process and come to see the patterns emerge. Through the time I’ve taken to involve myself in this community, to understand it, (and to occasionally make efforts to change elements I don’t agree with); through first hand experience and analysis of male and female interactions, I bring a unique female perspective to an industry full of men who think they know what women want. It’s great to be able to give honest, understandable advice to men on this, allowing them the opportunity to find out if what they are doing is actually working in a relaxed, judgement free environment,
As stylist and style coach for TNL, I help clients in group classes like The Masterclass and with private clients to update their clothing style to deliver maximum sexual impact on women. My background is in both fashion and costume design. I have a degree in costume design and theatre production from the Victorian College of the Arts, and I now work as a freelance designer. My commissions range from high end custom fashion to local circus weirdos! I’m also passionate about performance and theatremaking. I manage and perform in a dance troupe called V Dentatas and have been performing in the Melbourne burlesque and dance scene for several years, Appearing at Melbourne’s Big Day Out festivals, supporting band album launches, hosting performance extravaganzas and very excited to be heading to the Glastonbury festival to perform this year!
My main focus when working with guys to improve their style is to help them find a look and image that suits them as an individual. I am not always so interested in what is “in fashion” so much as what really suits the individuals interests, lifestyle, personality and body shape. This allows me to help them develop a great sense of style that is timeless, sexy and congruent with who they truly are.
I look at male sexual archetypes that have deep positive emotional impact on women and help find one (or more) of these hardwired attraction styles to suit my clients. In future articles I’ll be looking in more detail at why it’s so important to do this and how certain visual cues delivered by your clothing can affect your chances with a woman by serious percentage points.
I really enjoy seeing the progression of clients, the journey they go through, their progression in so many skills and behavioural change. It is so satisfying to witness the confidence and social skills gained by our clients, both towards women and in all other areas in their lives. There is nothing more rewarding or important to me than being involved in coaching men to gain improved social skills, be great conversationalists, effective listeners and have the skills to approach any woman or social group with confidence, style and charisma. As a woman I feel my role as a social coach is a service to womankind just as much to men!
I look forward to contributing to this blog and promise to send in reports from my adventures in Europe this summer, with lots of hot tips on how to make the ladies swoon, European styles!!!
When a guy is trying to pick up a woman the usual tradition is to “go for the number”. His aim is usually to get the number and then set up the date sometime in the near future. This sometimes provides a lot of stress for the person getting the number and the person giving it out. Questions run through the head such as “should i wait three days, what if they call tomorrow, does that mean they’re desperate, but i really like them, I hope they’re not desperate, but I do want them to call tomorrow because I like them, argh!”
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