The Power of intent

In my recent travels I spoke to groups of guys all around the world, from Sydney to Belgrade to NYC and L.A. I guess the overall theme of these presentations was on the Power of Intent. In my opinion this is the engine of seduction, or exerting influence in any social realm. There has been a long standing debate in the seduction community about whether Indirect or Direct styles work best. At the PUA Summit in L.A this year I spoke about the difference between these two expressions has very little to do with what is being said and everything to do with your internal projection. You can speak in indirect terms eg chatting about normal topics but if you are thinking, feeling and projecting a sexual intent, then this makes the whole interaction direct, without the need to state it overtly.

I’ll explain a little more about the concept of intent.

Actively projecting your intent during an interaction will shift the dynamic and outcome. An intent, is a desire, thought or feeling filtered through beliefs which can be actively projected through the energy you convey or through your eyes or expression. These projections will make tangible differences and you will yield different results when projecting bedroom eyes, hungry eyes, soft/hard eyes, etc.

For anyone to whom this seems like new age hippy voodoo, perhaps think of it like this. We have the ability to affect chances in someone’s heart rate, hormone release and nervous system by being around them. If you use a certain type of attention, eye contact, vocal cadence you can shift the way someone’s body, emotions and thoughts are moving – this is intent in action.

By using specific intent you will achieve profoundly different results than if you have no clear outcome or intent, as a strong intent will subsume a weaker or less focussed thought process you encounter in your partner. Or if your partner has a strong will and clear intent, she will recognise your counter strength and respond with greater respect and interest. Experiment with this, shifting your intent during interactions. If you are listening, soften your gaze and remain completely open to what is being said. You will absorb much more and the other person will open up more. When you are making an important point or actively moving towards your desire, focus your intent and project it piercingly forwards with the notion that you are not accepting anything less than your desired outcome.

This begins from the moment you and your girl spot each other. The man who immedaitely projects a sexual intent, will naturally hold eye contact, walks up with purpose, show his interest unapologetically and get far better results than a man who’s intent is scattered and riddled with uncertainty and shame about wanting to meet a woman.

You can chunk this down into easily achievable outcomes.
For example, my standard intent when first seeing a girl I want to approach is simply:

“I want to meet you”

I don’t worry about anything else at this stage. I keep it simple and this acts as my propulsion to make the approach happen.

Here’s a clip of me speaking about this at the PUA Summit this year:

Purpose of Interaction -- > leading the interaction to outcome

Without a clear idea of what you are trying to do during an interaction, your conversation will just float and any attraction released will soon dissipate. As soon as you begin the approach you should be aware of what outcome you are after. This will shift as you get to know the girl and depending on the logistics and circumstance you are in but overall your intent and purpose should be to connect, create pressure and release of sexual interest and lead the interaction as far as possible in that meeting. Whether or not you achieve this outcome is not so important as the fact that you are attempting and actively leading it. This gradually conditions you to be a bold and unapologetic seducer who goes for what he wants and has the sensitivity to know how best to achieve it. As an exercise, in your seducers journal (I hope you all have one, leather bound with gilded corners:) do the following. Start thinking in terms of what are your immediate and global outcomes, driven by which intent at different stages.

Write down 5 possible outcomes you want from your interactions with women.

1. I want to meet you.

Intent: Curiosity, attraction, taking control of my destiny

2.

3.

4.

5.

Get your intent eyes on and let me know how this changes the outcomes of your approaches.

Until next time
Be Natural.

James.

Sexual Intent